Sin, is sin, is sin…..

It seems that since the USA ruling to allow same sex marriages facebook has been flooded with opinions as to whether it is right or wrong.  To be honest I don’t remember the same volume of comment when the same law was passed almost two years ago in the UK.

I have been reluctant to enter the debate simply because among my friends are those who support different sides of the issue and I would never want to intentionally upset my friends, no matter where they stand.

The outrage about this decision is very much centred in Christian circles.  Those who are not believers are, on the whole, not that bothered.  There are also a significant number of diverse viewpoints within the Christian community.

It would be so much easier if we could say with definite conviction that one view was wrong and the other right, but I have been a Christian for nearly 31 years and I am compelled to conclude that no issue that the Christian church has grappled with over the years is completely black and white.

I would like to share a little of my own experience which will by no means give a conclusive decision one way or the other but may add perspective for those struggling with the dissent.

In 1973 as a young woman of 21 I married a man who I imagined would be my husband ‘until death us do part’ that was certainly my intention and, I believe at the time, was also his.  Fast forward two years and I found myself devastated at the unexpected loss of this man, no he didn’t die, he left me for someone else.  I had no power to stop him; he made his decision, a decision which left me feeling totally bereft, unwanted, unloved and unlovable.

For those of you around in the 70’s you may remember that the divorce reform act of 1969 instigated a protracted debate about whether divorcees could remarry in the church.   There was of course, no such thing as social media but the media of the day carried the stories nonetheless.  I should add that I wasn’t a Christian at this time but church marriages were the norm, and for myself I could not imagine being married anywhere else.    I was interested in following God but wasn’t really sure how to go about it.  Sadly, the message I heard from the ‘public face’ of the church at this time was that as a 23 year old divorcee I was doomed to spend the rest of my life as a single woman.   No matter that my divorce was neither my choice nor my fault, in the view of the church, I was not allowed to remarry under their roof.  It felt as if someone had slammed a door in my face.

It took me ten more years of emotional struggle and turmoil before I finally surrendered my life to Christ but that’s another story!   The point I’m trying to make is that around 40 years ago, a divorcee remarrying in the church was as scandalous as this current issue.

I have done some bible study in the last day or two and find that God hates divorce.  My search was not exhaustive by any means but I found 18 references to divorce, almost all of which decreed that any divorcee who remarried was an adulterer (no reference to whether or not they were believers at the time, no allowance for cause or fault).  That makes me an adulteress.   I found 8 references directly about homosexuality.   In many of the passages adultery, homosexuality and sexual immorality are mentioned together as sin.

To be honest I’m just thinking out loud here, but if there is any truth to be found it is this ….. we live in a sinful, fallen world.  God knows this, and God did something about it.  He sent His son Jesus so that we can be forgiven for our sins.  At the point in our lives in which we turn to Him and seek Him, He receives us ‘just as we are’ in whatever mess we have gotten ourselves into.

Jesus does not ask us to sort out our lives and then come….. He says

‘Come… now… as you are….. come.   You are loved…  wherever you have been… I know the past and I know the future and still I love you.   No matter how many mistakes you are still to make, I love you and my grace (undeserved favour)  is sufficient for you’

I see  that we are sometimes fixated on particular issues, particular sins which seem to be given a ‘higher’ grading than others and that saddens me.   We are all sinners.  It’s so easy to manipulate words to say what we want to hear.  The Biblical city of Sodom is in many minds the epitome of sinfulness with a specific connection to homosexuality but in my studies this evening I came across this verse.

“Behold, this was the guilt of your sister Sodom: she and her daughters had arrogance, abundant food and careless ease, but she did not help the poor and needy.”  Ezekiel 16:49

Sobering words.  I see little condemnation in the Christian world of our headlong rush into materialism and our insatiable desire to  accumulate goods and comfort in the western world while more than half the world struggle to survive.  If only we could harness the passion and zeal with which we condemn others and make it work for the good of those in need.


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Stephie
    Jun 30, 2015 @ 21:57:53

    Hi lynda
    Its my understanding that the bible says if your husband or wife leaves you is unfaithful and marries again you are not an adulterer as you did not cause the situation. Cant remember book and chapter though xx


    • A different way of seeing....
      Jul 02, 2015 @ 12:01:36

      Thanks for taking the time to comment Stephie, I take your point but the bible still says that God hates divorce, for whatever reason, and I don’t think it leaves me without blame as I was the one who petitioned for the divorce. I am perfectly at peace with my situation whether or not I am considered to be an adulteress. I say that for the simple reason that we are all sinners and my sin is no worse (or better) than anyone else’s. I believe that God wants what is best for us, divorce is not God’s best for us, however I am blessed that He led me marry a lovely godly man with whom I have spent the last 26 years and been blessed with two children (now grown) who love God and are seeking to serve Him with their lives. Thankfully we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him.


  2. berry31
    Jul 02, 2015 @ 02:59:45

    So well said. The verse from Ezekiel is so convicting to me… It’s a perfect description of our culture. And thank God that He sent Jesus to redeem us!! There’s no way I could’ve been good enough to save myself.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s


Adventures through writing

Gap year with granny

Fasten your seat belts, bring your cocoa and enjoy the ride

fabric and fairy dust

for something a wee bit special

Living by faith not by sight

The continuing adventures along...

Project Light to Life

A bucket list blog: exploring happiness, growth, and the world.

Living by faith not by sight

Hunter's Design Studio

Cool patterns + sassy stuff! And the home of We Are $ew Worth It!

The Complete Guide to Imperfect Homemaking

Living by faith not by sight

Organizing Home Life

Just another site

Red Brolly

Living by faith not by sight

The Better Man Project ™

a journey into the depths

Living by faith not by sight

The Daily Golden

your daily dose of Golden Retriever news, info, and cuteness!

Love for the Least of These

Living by faith not by sight

An Ounce of Compassion

...goes a long, long way...

The Fontenot Four

Living by faith not by sight

From England With Love

Living by faith not by sight

Grace. Mercy. Peace

Living by faith not by sight

Three Little Larks

Living by faith not by sight

Living by faith not by sight

Just another site


Living by faith not by sight

Mother Goose Smiles

Little stories about people I know and places I go

Living by faith not by sight

A Story By Me

as I'm learning to see

There's always Hope

Living by faith not by sight

His Heart of Compassion

Living by faith not by sight

Never Too Young

Living by faith not by sight


Take Action for Jesus

Starry's Sky

Living by faith not by sight

Living by faith not by sight

Tales of Child Sponsorship

Living by faith not by sight

Proof of His Love

Living by faith not by sight

Our Compassion Adventure

Living by faith not by sight

Cakes, Cards and Jewellery by Stephie x

Unique Design to your Specifications


New Adventures as a master of my own ship.

Pilgrim woman

Just another weblog

%d bloggers like this: